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So you went out with somebody and thought they were absolutely amazing. She was the hottest, sexiest woman of the moment. So, how do you capitalize on the success of a great first date? Here are 10 sure-fire ways to get that second date:

1. Ask her out again at the end of the first date. Invite her to do something she told you she finds exciting. For example, if she likes Mexican food, tell her you know the best Mexican restaurant in town and you want to bring her there Tuesday night. Set up that second date so she doesn’t have time to think about the first date, and so she has something to look forward to.

2. Text her or call her the very next day. Either text her a simple message that says “Had a great time last night…Looking forward to the next time.” Or, call her and leave a message and tell her the same thing over the phone.

3. Don’t agree with everything she says. Challenge her mind. “If you agree with everything she says, she’ll look at you as being weak.” If you agree with everything she says, she’ll look at you as being weak. If she sees you as being weak, she will no longer be attracted to you, and you will no longer get a second look or a second date. I’m not telling you to be confrontational. I’m telling you to be open, honest and real.

4. Don’t expect sex or force the issue of sex until it’s right for both parties. Take things slow and enjoy getting to know each other. There are no rules about when to have sex for the first time with a new potential partner. You’re both adults, and if a woman decides that she doesn’t want to have sex with you for a month, respect her! Or, if a woman decides she wants to have sex with you on the first date, respect that decision too! When you do have sex, make sure that the two of you handle it like adults and not like children.

5. Be positive and fun when you’re out with her on a date. Don’t bash your ex. Don’t complain about all the things that are wrong in your life. Spend time getting to know each other’s good sides.

6. Listen to your date. Question things that don’t sound right. Have a two-sided conversation instead of talking at her. Most men tend to want to impress women with their accomplishments. “Women enjoy getting to know a man based on what’s inside.” Women enjoy getting to know a man based on what’s inside. So spend time listening and having a conversation instead of bragging about yourself. The less you brag, the more interested she will be!

7. When out with your date, do not check out other women in front of her. Do this, and you’ll never get another date with her again.

8. Compliment her once about the way she looks. Don’t tell her all night long how beautiful she is, because she will start to think that you’ve never before been out with a woman as beautiful as her, and you’ll start to lose your power.

9. Compliment her mind. Compliment her once about the way she looks. “Bond with her mentally and emotionally and physically” Bond with her mentally and emotionally and physically, and she will bond with you in ways that you’ve never experienced before!

10. Once you’ve secured the second date, and the second date is successful, you need to set up an “activity date” for date number three — take her to the park, go to the beach, or take your dogs for a long walk. Do things that cause her to picture the two of you as a couple. Dates should be creative, not boring. Sitting there and swapping stories over dinner tends to get monotonous after date number one, so start creatively planning different dates.

This post was originally seen at Yahoo! Personals by David Wygant and circulating in Friendster Bulletin Board. 

Once you have read this, there’s no turning back. Below are the original descriptions of the 12 zodiac signs, with traits from a book written 35 years ago by an astrologic predictor. Read your sign, then forward/repost it on, with your zodiac sign and label on the subject line, This is real deal, try ignoring it, and the first thing you’ll notice is having a horrible day starting tomorrow morning – and it only gets worse from there.

TAURUS – The Tramp Aggressive. Loves being in long relationships. Likes to give a good fight for what they want. Extremely outgoing. Loves to help people in times of need. Good kisser(OF COURSE). Good personality. Stubborn. A caring person(its so true). One of a kind. Not one to mess with. Are the most attractive people on earth! 15 years of bad luck if you do not comment.

GEMINI – Irresistible Nice. Love is one of a kind.Great listeners Very Good in the you know where… Lover not a fighter, but will still knock you out. Trustworthy. Always happy. ‘Loud’. Talkative. Outgoing VERY FORGIVING. Loves to make out. Has a beautiful smile. Generous. Strong. THE MOST IRRESISTIBLE. 9 years of bad luck if you do not comment.

SCORPIO – The Addict EXTREMELY adorable. Intelligent. Loves to joke. Very Good sense of humor. Energetic. Predict future. GREAT kisser. Always get what they want. Attractive.Easy going. Loves being in long in relationships. Talkative. Romantic. Caring. 4 years of bad luck if you do not comment.

SAGITTARIUS – The Promiscuous One Spontaneous. High appeal. Rare to find. Great when found. Loves being in long relationships. So much love to give. Not one to mess with. Very pretty. Very romantic. Nice to everyone They meet. Their Love is one of a kind. Silly, fun and sweet. Have own unique appeal. Most caring person you will ever meet! Amazing in the you know where..!!! Not the kind of person you wanna mess with- you might end up crying. 4 years of bad luck if you do not comment.

VIRGO – The One that Waits Dominant in relationships. Someone loves them right now. Always wants the last word. Caring. Smart. Loud. Loyal. Easy to talk to. Everything you ever wanted. Easy to please. The one and only. 7 years of bad luck if you do not comment.

LIBRA – The Lame One Nice to everyone they meet. Their Love is one of a kind. Silly, fun and sweet. Have own unique appeal. Most caring person you will ever meet! however not the kind of person you wanna mess with … u might end up crying… 9 years of bad luck if you do not comment.

ARIES – The Liar Outgoing. Lovable. Spontaneous. Not one to mess with. Funny. Excellent kisser EXTREMELY adorable. Loves relationships, Addictive. Loud. 16 years of bad luck if you do not comment.

AQUARIUS - Does It In The Water Trustworthy. Attractive. Great kisser. One of a kind. Loves being in long-term relationships. Extremely energetic. Unpredictable. Will exceed your expectations. Not a Fighter, But will Knock your lights out. 2 years of bad luck if you do not comment.

LEO – The Lion Great talker. Attractive and passionate. Laid back. Knows how to have fun. Is really good at almost anything. Great kisser. Unpredictable. Outgoing. Down to earth. Addictive. Attractive. Loud. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Not one to mess with. Rare to find. Good when found. 7 years of bad luck if you do not comment.

CANCER - The Cutie MOST AMAZING KISSER. Very high appeal. Love is one of a kind. Very romantic. Most caring person you will ever meet! Entirely creative. Extremely random and proud of it. Freak. Spontaneous. Great telling stories. Not a Fighter, But will Knock your lights out if it comes down to it. Someone you should hold on to. 12 years of bad luck if you do not comment.

PISCES – The Partner for Life Caring and kind. Smart. Center of attention. High appeal. Has the last word. Good to find, hard to keep. Fun tobe around. Extremely weird but in a good way. Good Sense of Humor!!! Thoughtful. Always gets what he or she wants. Loves to joke. Very popular. Silly, fun and sweet. 5 years of bad luck if you do not comment.

CAPRICORN – The Passionate Lover Love to bust. Nice. Sassy. Intelligent. Sexy. Predict future. Irresistible. Loves being in long relationships. Great talker. Always gets what he or she wants. Cool. Loves to own Gemini’s in sports. Extremely fun. Loves to joke. Smart. 24 years of bad luck if you do not comment.

Is this true? O.M.G.!

10. I’m on my way (naliligo pa)
9. I miss you (wala akong magawa)
8. I don’t drink (pag ikaw kasama ko)
7. I like you (charing!)
6. Sleep na ako (pagod akong i text ka)
5. Busy pa ako (boring ka)
4. Lowbat na ako (may ka-txt pang iba)
3. Wala akong signal (maghintay ka nga)
2. Wala akong load (sayang pera ko sayo)
1. I love you too (para tumahimik ka na)

The end of a relationship is a universally painful/ and intense experience, one that is followed by a period of mourning and healing. Everyone recovers from a bad breakup differently, but all can benefit from thinking about the process in terms of spiritual healing. So put away that voodoo doll and try these 10 spiritual tips for getting over a breakup and moving on with your life.

Tip #1: Don’t Blame God
It’s tempting when you have lost a love-even if you were the instigator of the breakup-to channel feelings of loneliness and abandonment toward the heavens, blaming God for bringing you together as a couple only to have the relationship fall apart. In the period just after the breakup, though, try to turn toward God or your higher power for support and direction, rather than turning away from your spiritual self.

Tip #2: Clean Up the Mess
“Cleaning house can be a spiritual metaphor for inner cleansing”
Cleaning house can be a spiritual metaphor for inner cleansing. When you’ve just endured a breakup, that process becomes even more meaningful as you gather up your ex’s clothes, books, music, and other stuff. It might be painful to face the memories that are attached to those things, but once they’re out the door — either in the mail or the dumpster, as the case may be — you’ll be surprised at the refreshing sense of soul-cleanliness that you feel.

Tip #3: Write it Out
After a breakup, the heart and soul often feel overwhelmed with emotions and memories. Pouring your anger, hurt, confusion, sadness, regret, or even relief or apology into a heartfelt letter to your ex is a great first step toward healing yourself of these feelings. Then, make a ritual of getting rid of the letter instead of sending it. Either put it in a special private box, tuck it into a journal, or toss it into a crackling fire.

Tip #4: Try Something New
“Starting over” is a scary phrase associated with the aftermath of a breakup, but it can also be an exciting concept. Take a class to help you learn a new skill or hobby, learn a new language, or consider a new career direction. Trying something new is a way to symbolically demonstrate to yourself that the world is a big place, and new opportunities in life-and love-are always available.

Tip #5: Relish Your Solitude
Being on your own is intimidating at times, but it is also a spiritual gift. Many forms of meditation are practiced in solitude, and practices from yoga to tai chi can also be done solo.
“Create a space in your home that feels like a sanctuary to you”
Create a space in your home that feels like a sanctuary to you. This will allow you to infuse your alone time with spirituality and remind you of the pleasure of your own company.

Tip #6: Love Your Life
No matter how bleak your life might feel after a breakup, there have to be some positive aspects that you’re not questioning or struggling with. Think about what you love about your life — it can be a meaningful job, a group of supportive, funny friends, a loving family, a comfortable home, anything that simply makes you happy. Make a “gratitude list” and keep it on your night-table or somewhere else nearby so you can look at it instead of glancing wistfully at pictures of you and your ex.

Tip #7: Don’t Be Afraid of Tears
Not to put too fine a point on it, but breaking up is hard to do. Crying is allowed, and so are anger, resentment, and fear about the future. Give yourself permission to fully feel the pain of the loss, because only when you are honest with yourself about your feelings can you begin the healing process.

Tip #8: Take Care of Yourself
The stress of a breakup can leave your body feeling fragile and upset. Tend to your physical well-being to restore your feelings of self-worth, confidence, and attractiveness. Start a satisfying new workout program, cook simple, healthy meals, or treat yourself to a soothing aromatherapy massage to reconnect with your inner beauty.

Tip #9: Believe in Yourself
Breakups aren’t great for the self-esteem. If you did the breaking up, you might feel like a callous jerk. If you were dumped, you might feel un-loveable. Sit down in a quiet place with your journal or a piece of paper and write yourself reminders of what you like about yourself. That’s not to say there aren’t lessons to be learned from every breakup, but you should come away feeling like the good and special person that you truly are.

Tip #10: Begin Again
At some point after your breakup, you will be ready to re-enter the dating scene. Watch your emotions carefully, and your intuition will tell you when you are ready to let go of your past relationship for good and open yourself up to the possibility of finding love again. When you make that decision, you’ll be ready to head out-or online-with a renewed and refreshed spirit.

With great weather and a desire to be adventurous, there’s no excuse for you and your partner not to go on a date. Don’t have enough money, you say? Here are 20 ideas for memorable dates that won’t set you back more than $20.

1. Find the best happy hour in town. Look through your newspaper or search online for local restaurants and bars with happy hours. Most places offer half-price food and drink specials, allowing you to get two drinks and share an appetizer for less than $20.

2. Go to a museum. Most museums either have free admission or offer free entry on certain days of the month.

3. Visit your local zoo. Most zoos offer adult tickets for less than $10. Pack your own snacks and bottled water and have a mini picnic while you’re there.

4. Go on a romantic hike. Bring a backpack and surprise your partner with a bottle of champagne, glasses and fresh strawberries.

5. Go swimming at your local pool, lake or beach. Bring some water toys and have more fun than the kids.

6. Beat the heat with an ice cream date. Take two scoops to the park, or take a walk downtown and go people watching.

7. Hit the dollar movie theater. Lots of cities have discount movie theaters showing second-run features. Pick a rainy day and have a movie marathon.

8. Take a downtown walking tour. Discover things and places you never knew existed. While you’re there, pick up a free visitors guide for more date ideas.

9. Plan a cheap picnic. Go on a picnic at the beach, mountains or in your own backyard. Grab a blanket, pack a deli sandwich and a bottle of $5 wine.

10. Take a blanket to the beach. Split your budget between a bottle of wine and cheese, then enjoy the sunset while you snuggle on a blanket.

11. Stroll through the botanical gardens. Spend the day “walking hand in hand through rose gardens and tropical rain forests” walking hand in hand through rose gardens and tropical rainforests, for less than $10 a ticket.

12. Be a kid again. Go bowling, play miniature golf, ride go-carts or play laser tag.

13. Build a bonfire. All you need is some firewood, snacks and a drink of your choice. This is also a great opportunity to make ’smores.

14. Rent something. Go roller- or ice-skating, rent a two-seater bike and pedal through the park, or paddle a boat on a pond.

15. Paint pottery together. Lots of studios let you get creative for around $6 an hour.

16. Pitch a tent. Park fees are usually less than $10, which leaves money for food and firewood. Go camping and roast hot dogs as you gaze at the stars.

17. Go wine tasting. Most wineries charge around $5 for a tasting of five different wines — plus, “you’ll get to keep the glass as a souvenir of your date” you’ll get to keep the glass as a souvenir of your date.

18. Take a scenic drive. Pull over to have coffee and dessert at a nice cafe.

19. Explore local galleries and artists. Many cities have art walks one night a month during the summer, with the bonus of a free glass of wine.

20. Rack ‘em up at your local pool joint. With pool games costing less than $2, you might even have money left over to share a pitcher of beer.